How soon is too soon?

How soon is too soon?


    In regards to allowing my 11 year old have her first official boyfriend, go to her first party, first date, and how much info, must I give her in regards to sex?
    I am simply throwing all this out there, cause she basically, is begging to have a boyfriend and not wait until she is 18 yrs of age, which is way better than her waiting until she is 30 years of age!
   Yet, she tells me the following:
Me: " Why do you want to have a boyfriend at this time?"
Her: "So that when I get to your age, I am more aware of what dating implies and smarter than you too!"
Me: " Are you saying, that just because I have never gone on a date, makes me less of a mother?"
Her: " What if I ask you," Hey, Mom, how did you feel, when your first boyfriend took hold of your hand without letting go?"
Me: " Hmmm, no one has really ever held my hand, so...."
Her: " Mom, you are useless to me!"
Me:" Pardon my lack of experience, but I still do not see a point in allowing you to date at this time, if you are far from getting a job, buying your own house, and getting married!"
Her: " Mom, I do not need to get married, nor do I want to do so at this time, but at least I want to know what it is to go out on a date, and have a boy hold my hand, give me a hug, maybe a kiss( I cough at this time), and have some cuddle time with him as well."
Me: " Why can't you wait until your in college?"
Her: " Mom, your old school..."
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And we go back and forth, around the same thing.  Today, we were eating dinner at pizza hut, to celebrate her birthday, and a guy was walking past the window close to our table, I looked at her blouse, and saw that it was showing a tad too much and told her to pull it up.
Her response to me was:
" Mom, you are way too overprotective of me!"
I just rolled my eyes, and muttered," I am your mother!"...
 Does this make me a bad mother?  How much space should I give her to explore this area, and besides warning her about the boys that are only looking to getting laid, and nothing more, what more should I tell her or do, as her mother, in order to insure her safety?
   I know I cannot keep her in a bubble wrap, less keep her away from the boys, as no matter what I do, they are already noticing her.  And she is wearing make up in a way that many people think she is in her teens already, and not just that, some guys think she is already 16 or 17 years of age!
   I shutter at such thought, and at the same time I do not want to make the same mistake my parents made with my by forbidding all talk about sex and boys.  And I know she is smart enough to scream and or fight back if someone were to try and take advantage of her!
   If only there were a manual that is given to us at birth, in order to be better prepared when we finally become parents.
    How soon is too soon?
                   Angel 4 Eternity